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Maria Robinson
The importance of being earnest
The importance of being earnest ..... but only sometimes.
It's often the everyday little events that make us stop and think. Today I took my daughter to the local train station and ended up witnessing a bizarre little comedy. A man arrived with a bike and got on a carriage further down the train. The guard rushed up with a frustrated look on his face, and initiated an agitated conversation with the cyclist.
Perhaps bikes were not allowed on this train? Within minutes the guard had lost his temper and was threatening to call the police. Meanwhile, the man was adamant that he had the right to put his bike on the train. One after another a further three rail employees arrived, all trying to convince the man to remove the offending cycle.
It was the train driver who eventually managed the feat. Presumably by calmly stating that as he was the driver, and bikes were not allowed, the train was clearly going nowhere and it was up to the man to choose whether or not to remain on a stationary train. As the driver ambled off with a wry but relaxed smile upon his face, the stressed out cyclist resigned himself to waiting for the next bike-friendly departure.
So what's behind all this? Just that everybody is behaving perfectly reasonably in their own opinon. But the frustrated attitudes of some of the rail employees certainly weren't helping to achieve the desired result, namely the train leaving on time with all of its passengers correctly boarded.
People with a high level of resilience remain calm, flexible and adaptable, even under pressure. Perhaps the train driver knew a thing or two about resilience. It's rarely worth letting the frustrations, aggravations and annoyances of daily life get the better out of you, but many of us frequently fall into that trap and then go home feeling stressed and angry.
Resilience Tip # 1: Stress comes at a price. When you find yourself getting frustrated or stressed, try to focus on what you can realistically achieve rather than holding out for what you desperately feel justified in wanting.
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